There’s this question of physical distance intervening in human relationships, I hear. I think about it too, at times. But, well, I don’t know!
I’ve seen ‘Love Aaj Kal’. Entertainment quotient wise - ok, but somehow couldn’t appreciate it much. It led to lot of my acquaintances saying that they could relate very well to it. (I’ll never understand few things in life - do people actually relate to movies or they just want to imitate them.)
Later, I came across this story, ‘The Japanese Wife’ by Kunal Basu which is now a movie as well. It is an unusual tale of two pen friends (a Bengali boy and a Japanese girl). They fall in love over letters and marry. Even over fifteen years of their marriage they do not meet and seldom talk on phone. In the end the boy dies without even meeting his spouse, the girl then comes to his village and leads her life as his widow.
Talk about any long distance relationship and I am sure ‘The Japanese Wife’ takes the cake. But I haven’t found anyone who could relate to even a part of the story.
Are appreciation and the ability to ‘relate’ to a story, fiction/ nonfiction result of convenience and glamour? Or do our faith, wisdom, society and upbringing also have a say? Between human relationships and physical distance, which is stronger, more valuable? Which one should define the other and what is for keepsake?
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11 years ago
Relationships are keepsake, honey. Always! Good observation about the two movies' absolutely contrasting effect on the audience.
ReplyDeleteThe prob is nt abt the Relationship, it is when one person is in a relation and the other person is not, or u think they are just to find out they are not. Quite an irony actually.
ReplyDeleteRelationships are always abt 2 people :)
Well, when people say that they can relate to a movie it simply means that they want their lives to have some part of it or all of it.There is some element of self pity as well.
ReplyDeleteAs far as long distance is considered, it is a tough job and is possible only in cases of unconditional love.For example, we as students are in a long distance relationship with our parents.The emotions are intact and selfless.
@Nidhi- succinct reflection.
ReplyDeletei dont know abt the movie the Japanese wife and thank-you chandni that i will never know as you wrote the whole story... its like being hungry meaning you dont know what hunger is until you are hungry , so try getting in a long distance relationship and you will know it ............
ReplyDeleteI feel long distance relationship can work..even when you have not met even once..
ReplyDeleteThe only thing one should do is not to loose touch .. otherwise, speculations , assumptions about even small things may lead to big misunderstanding which ultimately results in breaking the relationship..